Visualize, visualize, visualize

One of the first steps in healing ourselves, is our reunion with our inner child.

First, reflect on your self talk. What does it sound like? Is it judgemental? Dismissive? Unforgiving? Kind? Do you ever call yourself stupid, or tell yourself what you did was stupid. Do you feel a large amount of guilt, do you feel shame, do you try to push away your emotions? These are all signs your soul is sending to you that you need to love your inner child. Your inner child is literally begging you in desperation to remember him/her, to come back to her, and to be that unconditionally loving caregiver that they have always needed.

The first step in reuniting with your inner child is to close your eyes, and visualize your younger self. Your soul knows which visual to go to, it is automatic which age you will see based on your inner need. Once you see your younger self, notice what he/she looks like. What is she doing, how is she standing? Begin a conversation with him/her. Say hello, ask her a question. Your soul knows what you need to say, what you need to do. Your inner child will respond and she will be honest. Children are pure and will tell you exactly what they need and how they feel, we just have to want to hear. We can’t be afraid, we have to be genuinely invested in knowing.

Your eyes must be closed during this conversation, and focus on the part of your body that you have the most feeling, and keep focusing on the visual of your inner child. Ask her/him the questions that you need to ask. Your soul knows what to say, and what to ask. Listen to the responses, and have a conversation.

A lot of the time, we need to apologize to our inner child. We need to apologize and acknowledge that what they went through, the pain they felt, was not their fault. They did not do anything to deserve that pain, and we need to apologize to our inner child for not protecting them because we did not know better. We weren’t able to, and we are sorry. But we are here now, and we love them. We love them so much. They are safe now because we are here. In this moment, your inner child needs your embrace, your love, your touch, your hugs. Hold them. Allow your emotions to freely express themselves in your physical body. If you need to cry, cry as much as you need to. If you need to hold yourself in the fetal position, hold yourself.

You may notice resistance from your inner child when they are shown love, and this is because they think that they do not deserve it. Continue the conversation, and continue letting your inner child know that they are safe now, that you will take care of them and protect them. Apologize for the things you have said to yourself over the years, apologize for not being there for your inner child and neglecting them, but tell them that you are here now, and they are safe, and that you love them.

Your reunion with your inner child is a personal experience, everyone will have a different conversation, a different experience, because we all have had different lives and are different people. But everyones inner child needs to feel safe, to feel love, to feel taken care of and protected. Everyones inner child needs to know that their pain was not their fault, and that they are safe now.

This is a lifelong relationship you have to maintain and be caring with, and you will feel the peace and safety that comes with it, but over time you may become neglectful of this relationship again. Stay mindful, and stay aware of the moments that your inner child is calling you to come back to her.

Leave any comments or questions you have below about this process.

Love,

Sheida